Love: Cupid or Stupid?
Living cross-culturally always provides for insight, discovery and cultural challenge. Culture is so much an innate part of the basic fabric of our lives that we don't always see it, nor can we be aware of it. Valentine's Day is a big thing in America. True - like in Europe - it's a money-maker for restaurants, florists and other commercial activities. Yet the now-traditional and historically-exaggerated celebration of the
Martyr Valentine isn't just about lovers, over-priced roses or reserving a table months in advance. It's about love, saying it, expressing it, celebrating it. This year our children have been decorating for weeks, making cards, boxes to receive Valentine's all the familiar kid things that happen in America and yet are so foreign here in France. So we had a giant celebration with yesterday at home with about 8 cupcakes for each person. Here in France, it's purely commercial, for lovers, seen as something that cheapen,s, consumerises and cheapifys love. Yet maybe the international, and multi-cultural visions of Valentine's Day are actually revelatory of the ways in which love has been commodified, capitalized and codified in our cultures.